The Key To Remission: It’s Just A Number Unless It’s Not

Five and half years ago, I was diagnosed with an incredibly rare autoimmune disease that only affects one out of every two million people. My immune system made antibodies that were attacking my lungs and kidneys, making them hemorrhage and ultimately fail. For a year I battled aggressively – pushing the limits my doctors put on my body, because it was an aggressive disease, so I needed to be aggressive. After a year of treatments including: chemo, steroids, dialysis, plasma exchanges and other procedures/operations as needed – I came out on top. But it wasn’t something I did – it was a miracle. I was dying; the very loud clock over my head was ticking so loudly that people stopped pretending as if they didn’t hear it. And then one day I was at less than 5% kidney function and the next I was over 60%. No one could explain it. And they still can’t.

It took awhile to accept that I was better. Until that time, I was always ten times worse than the worst case: Worst case was I would need dialysis in a year, and ten days later I started dialysis. Worst case was my body would not be able to get rid of what I consumed because dialysis may not be enough, but I lost more than twenty pounds and doctors began talking about putting a feeding tube in. It didn’t take long before I stopped listening to the worst case or for the doctors to stop making predictions.

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The Bad Day

Last Wednesday was a bad day. Everyone has them. A day when nothing goes right, or worse – everything goes wrong. A day when you screw something up or get screwed; a day of perpetual bad news bombs going off, one after the other. I’m not sure if I would classify last Wednesday as that bad, but it still kind of sucked.

I started out at a local cancer center for my blood treatment. It was a new location, but the other one was booked up and I needed to be seen sooner. My treatment usually takes ninety minutes, two hours if something goes wrong. I was there for nearly four hours. The nurse who was doing my treatment was very nice and friendly, and by the time I left, I completed my treatment… but only after two blown veins, incredible discomfort and pain, and an arm that was bruised and unusable in places that should not have been affected. I’m not blaming her… I was not as hydrated as I usually am because the appointment was early in the morning instead of my normal time in the early afternoon. But when I think about going back to this new location for a second time I’m nervous because I do question if she is the right nurse for me. She only gets to work with one arm (my other arm has a fistula) and I’m skinny with delicate, rolling veins – so my body doesn’t exactly make it easy, but that just means I need that much more of an experienced or nuanced nurse.

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Doggie Dentist: A Pup’s First Time

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I knew today was going to be different. Usually my humans let me stay in bed until I want to get up. Unless my daddy leaves for work extra early, then he bribes me with promises of tasty turkey jerky goodness so I’ll get out of bed. I don’t know why he does this – I think he just doesn’t like the idea of me going over and flopping down on mommy’s stomach, which is what I do once he leaves. It’s the best cuddle spot, really.

They made me go outside and then told me we were going, “Bye bye,” and of course I was excited. That usually means I get to visit my cousins or go for a walk somewhere new. But then mommy got in back with me in my kennel and that was my first clue. Where were they taking me?

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I was so anxious about taking Angel to the vet for her procedure. I couldn’t fall asleep and then woke up early. I was afraid something would go wrong – she hasn’t been under anesthesia since she was a puppy – five years ago! What if she had a bad reaction to the drugs? What if they had to make an extraction? And that wasn’t even the worst of it. Angel is generally healthy and has only had one emergency visit, and I was there by her side the entire time. What if she thought I was abandoning her? What if me leaving made her feel scared and alone? Would she know I would never leave her? Would she know it was for her own good?

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I wasn’t worried about taking Angel to the vet; it’s for her own good. Michael knows that, but that doesn’t matter. I knew Michael would be crazy all day until we heard that she was out of recovery and fine. I knew Angel would be all right – she is a healthy, active dog, and she knows Michael would never leave her anywhere… But I also knew Michael would never believe that. I just hoped they gave us an update soon – for sanity’s sake.

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Love Wins! And It’s About Damn Time

Last Friday history was made and the United States finally got on the right side of it: Same-sex couples were granted marriage equality, ending the argument once and for all. I was elated, thrilled and so happy I was acting goofy. It was something so basic and so clear that should have been settled decades ago. In fact, it never should have been a question. But it was, and part of me had wondered just how long it would be before the United States got their shit together and figured it out. If you had asked me fifteen years ago if I saw it happening in my lifetime, I would have said yes. But I also would have thought I’d be much older than thirty.

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Throughout the day, my Facebook feed had people sharing a few things I posted on my timeline including I’m Moving to Canada and a drinking game I devised for when people watched Fox News that day. I mean after such a long and hard fight, sometimes you just want to gloat… just a little. I texted my bestie as soon as it was announced, “Take that you Republican bitches!” But beyond that I was very classy about it, and not very braggy. By the end of Friday, my Facebook feed looked like an explosion of Skittles and I kind of loved it.

But after the first few hours and the shock of our country finally waking up and doing the right thing, other voices started sounding. And quite frankly they irritated the hell out of me. They fell into three categories: The Crusaders, The Religious Nuts, and The Political Hopefuls.

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A Writer’s First: Personal Essays, Publication Submissions And Writing Contests

I promised myself that this year I would finally submit something. And not just something, but I would begin submitting regularly to different presses and publications. You can’t get published unless you actually put your writing, and yourself, out there. I’m thirty, and I’ve been writing since I was seven, and yet I have never submitted anything before – ever.

I attended the AWP (Association of Writers and Writing Programs) conference this year, and I took many things away from it, and one of them was: SUBMIT! SUBMIT! SUBMIT! I even received/won a free 1-year subscription for a great website that does research on where you can submit your work and tracks those submissions, etc. I still haven’t used it, or even logged into the site yet.

Despite my resolution, I struggled to come up with anything new and couldn’t find anything I had already written that I wanted to polish. I knew about a few writing contests I wanted to enter, and most of them had deadlines of June 30 or July 1. I had time…

Well, now it’s June 26 – so time is almost up! For the past ten days I have been scrambling to write, rework, find readers, revise, revise again, find more readers, polish, get a stamp of approval, make sure it fits the requirements and aesthetic (if applicable) of the writing contest/sponsor/publication and submit.

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